What It Means To Be A Man

by DearRicky

Remember how Martha Shaw in ‘The Notebook’ wanted Noah’s love but never received as his heart belonged to another?

She continued giving despite his unwillingness to return her affections. All she wanted was for her shattered dreams to recover. She found hope in the saddest of ways, and I can’t help but ask, what about her?

What about the one you neglected, to wallow in self-pity? The one who sits in the kitchen awaiting your return, hoping to see you this time around? The one who knows her best friend desperately changes the subject whenever a significant other is mentioned in the group? The one who cries alone in her room, wiping her own tears for reassurance? What about the one who’d willingly sacrifice her life because of unconditional love?

Martha Shaw symbolizes incredible strength. However as a man, it’s about finding the path to her heart without a need for instruction. If she has to give such detail, it means you’ve failed to notice what really matters. It’s not unreasonable for her to expect you to read her mind when effort counts for most.

Some say it’s a flaw for women to want their men to change, but in actuality, it spells for opportunity. The most common excuse is that she wants to be in control, but if you explore to discover her reasons, you’ll understand her desires are from the best of intentions. She wants you to change, not because she doesn’t accept you, but that she believes in you.

There are times when a man can only be defined by his willingness to let a woman in his heart. If you allow yourself to break free from the boundaries of love to find romance, your journey of becoming a man begins. You have to open your eyes to realize that hers can inspire you to fall in love, time and time again.

Love is the realization that possibility outweighs the impossible. A man is usually defined by his physical strength or financial status; the ability to care for his family. Are you man enough to let yourself find dreams within her love?

[couple-in-rain-med] To be a man is to let her become your inspiration. It’s to make her your reason and opportunity to become the person you were always meant to be. It’s to rise above a desire for someone better, seeing it in the one your arms have enfolded. It’s about faith that defies impossibility because she’ll always be more.

But how do you reach a woman’s heart when she can’t see you, when she had already lost the great romance of her life? How do you break free from the misty look in her eyes whenever you touch her face?

The point is you have to show your love without focusing on her acknowledgment. The art of loving a woman is to give her wings, while hoping for her stay. It’s the momentum of reaching that one moment when she looks into your eyes and realizes her dreams have already come true, making them into your own. It’s to show her she’s loved and not only by you.

Should you spend your entire life carrying the weight of her sorrows for that one smile, know it was worth every effort. Her dreams are beautiful, and for you to become a part of them is what it means to be a man.